“With the Twelfth Step we seek to consciously practice these principles in our lives, not only as ways to keep us sexually sober, although that will always remain important, but as lights to guide us in everything we do.”
Sex Addicts Anonymous, page 61
I’ve heard the Twelve Steps described as progressive surrender. Early on, I struggled with the concept of surrender. I liked the slogan “Let Go And Let God,” I wanted to experience conscious contact with the Higher Power of my understanding, but I couldn’t figure out how to control my spirit or push the surrender button. I felt like an infant, kicking and flailing without knowing what’s wrong.
Through sobriety and the Steps, I learned to apply spiritual principles in any situation. When I’m disturbed, I reach out to others, especially my sponsor, and ask for help working steps applicable to the issue. I ask myself, what am I powerless over in this situation? I reaffirm my belief that my Higher Power can lead me to clarity and peace, and I demonstrate trust in that Power by owning my part. When my character weaknesses are highlighted, I humbly ask for willingness to let them go and ask God to remove them. I make amends if needed. I often share my circumstances with fellow travellers and my sponsor, borrowing their clear-headed thoughts and listening to their experience, strength, and hope.
When I work the Twelve Steps, I demonstrate willingness to align my life with a power greater than me. Through practicing these principles, I now look forward to surrender.
For today, God, open me to spiritual principles.