“To look within and embrace the many parts (sometimes fragments) of myself rather than looking for my definition in others has been an important process. I know that I am on track spiritually when I am able to be honest with myself and be present both with my feelings and with the moment at hand, no matter what it is. At these times my thoughts toward myself are like those of a loving friend.”
Sex Addicts Anonymous, page 130
Step Eleven encourages us to meditate. There are many ways to meditate, but those who meditate tell us that it is a foundation for spiritual health and the path to true peace and happiness.
To meditate means to be connected to, and present in, an immediate reality. No fantasies, please. No grandiose delusions about how powerful I am. No self-judging conclusions about the shamefulness of acting out.
Meditation is a practice, a behavior. Its power comes not from what I do, but from being still and open to what is—a world far removed from the beliefs and fears that drove my addiction. And they’re right; I can find peace.
Addiction is mindless action. Meditation is meaningful stillness.