Honesty
November 14
When obsessive thoughts came into my mind, I learned to say the Serenity Prayer or the first three steps over and over, like a mantra….
November 16
Sex addicts like to rationalize a behavior by saying I’m only hurting myself.…First, you have to ask yourself why is that okay?…
The Outer Circle Mar-Apr 2020
Better than Sex: Discovering healthier sexuality required something unexpected…
The Outer Circle May-Jun 2020
Navigating Online Meetings: Using the internet to combat isolation during the COVID-19 crisis…
Identify, Don’t Compare
When we first enter SAA, it can sometimes be tempting to compare our own behavior with that of others. When we concentrate on differences, imagining that their sexual conduct is much more (or much less) serious than ours, we make judgments that inadvertently reinforce our own denial. …
Rigorous Honesty
Rigorous honesty demands much more than what we wish to believe about ourselves and what we imagine others might want to hear. It takes courage and faith to tell the truth, especially when deceit and denial were a significant part of our acting-out patterns. Rigorous honesty is an element of all aspects of our program. …
Letting Go of Old Ideas
Distorted thinking is common among sex addicts. We rationalize and justify our acting out. We may be invested in seeing our behaviors as fun or as our birthright, without any sense of the harm we do to ourselves or to others. …
Getting Honest About the Middle Circle
One of the things we hear at meetings is that people sometimes relapse into their addiction. Invariably, we hear that the slip was preceded by Middle Circle behaviors. …
