We can only make amends to the best of our ability and leave the rest in God’s hands….
An attitude of humility and sincere regret for the harms we have done will carry us far….
I had to take responsibility for my past actions to be able to live with myself….
Many find it beneficial to do a personal sexual history, including an exploration of sexuality in their family of origin….
The response of any particular person, positive or negative, is not a measure of how well we make our amends. The success of our amends depends only on how honestly and thoroughly we make them….
We can then admit our part and prepare to do whatever is needed to set things right, whether it is making direct amends, adjusting our attitude, or simply letting go…
Working Step Nine brings us many gifts: true empathy for those we have harmed, compassion, self-respect, and respect for the humanity of others….
God willing, we may experience the forgiveness of those we have harmed. If we have been diligent in our amends, we will certainly grow in self-forgiveness too….
In Step Eight we claim both our integrity and our compassion, and become willing to free ourselves from the guilt we have carried….
In the long run, the most effective amends we can make to others and to ourselves is in our commitment to recovery….