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The Three Circles
The Three Circles is a tool we use to define our sexual sobriety. We organize our behaviors according to whether they are addictive, healthy, or somewhere in between. …
Getting Honest About the Middle Circle
One of the things we hear at meetings is that people sometimes relapse into their addiction. Invariably, we hear that the slip was preceded by Middle Circle behaviors. …
Using the Telephone
The phone is a central tool of recovery for many addicts. If you hear a share that you particularly relate to, or find yourself in a helpful conversation, feel free to ask for that person’s telephone number for the purpose of making program calls. …
First Step Presentation
There are many ways of taking a First Step. In some meetings, time is set aside for formal presentations. Essentially, this involves writing answers to a series of questions and then sharing them on a group level. …
One Day at a Time
Recovery from sex addiction rarely happens overnight. It takes patience – a quality often in short supply for us. Imagining that we have to find the courage to face abstinence from sexual behaviors for indefinite amounts of time can feel overwhelming….
Fellowship
Our fellowship is a society of men and women on the path of recovery. The fact is that we need each other to stay sober. The people we see at meetings are a lifeline for us. They understand in ways few people outside SAA do. …
Friendship
Developing friendships in SAA supports us as we face the challenges of recovery. The withdrawal process of early sobriety can be unsettling and scary if we try to do it alone. …
Changing Old Routines
Most of our compulsive behaviors are intricately woven into the fabric of our lives. Certain times of day or specific locations, people, and activities are part of our acting-out patterns. Changing old routines that are associated with our addiction is an important tool for staying sober….
Living Through the Discomfort of Withdrawal
If you become abstinent from addictive sexual behavior, you may experience withdrawal, just as you would from alcohol or any addictive drug. Withdrawal is not a metaphor. It is a physiological phenomenon with emotional and mental components….
Prayer
Prayer provides a time for communing with our Higher Power. Prayers may come from any tradition, be self-created, or simply be a spontaneous conversation with the God of our own understanding. …