Sexual sobriety
August 6
We share our program so that we can gain a balanced recovery and we do this by directly showing our three circles to our sponsor and to people in our group. Without this clarity we can continue to act out, because we are confused about what sobriety is for us…
August 14
As we gain sobriety by having clear boundaries and working our program, it becomes much easier to stay sober and to truly
enjoy recovery….
August 12
As our recovery progresses, and we gain new understanding about ourselves and our addiction, we are free to add or delete behaviors, or move them from one circle to another, in order to reflect new growth and insights….
October 15
In particularly challenging moments, committing to our sobriety for just an hour at a time is what we may need to do in order not to give in to our impulses….
October 23
I am encouraged to focus, not so much upon not acting out, or even avoiding middle-circle behaviors, as on practicing a new way of living that brings wholeness and integrity to everything I do….
December 10
History does not have to repeat itself in my life. I have choices!…
December 23
In order to stay sober, I needed to make sure that, one day at a time, acting out was not an option….
Service
When trying to break a habit, it is helpful to substitute a different behavior. As newly sober sex addicts, we sometimes did not know what to do with ourselves. We were on unfamiliar ground and walking into a meeting where we did not know anyone could be uncomfortable. …
Changing Old Routines
Most of our compulsive behaviors are intricately woven into the fabric of our lives. Certain times of day or specific locations, people, and activities are part of our acting-out patterns. Changing old routines that are associated with our addiction is an important tool for staying sober….
One Day at a Time
Recovery from sex addiction rarely happens overnight. It takes patience – a quality often in short supply for us. Imagining that we have to find the courage to face abstinence from sexual behaviors for indefinite amounts of time can feel overwhelming….